This morning I awoke and felt I needed to read Ecc. 3, so I did. Steve and I will be married for forty years this next anniversary and we have been meeting with Pastor Marvin Barham to work on a defects in our marriage, now you would think after forty years you would have worked them out
but, oh no, God keeps sharpening us with each other. I will always be working on my marriage to be the helpmate I am to be, it is so easy for me to be selfish, Steve makes it easy for me, he caters to me and when he doesn’t I do not understand why
In our marriage we have been though just about every road block for a marriage I can think of and have always worked it out, this morning the scripture spoke to me, Ecc. 3:12, “ though one maybe overpowered by another, two can withstand him. “
Now in our marriage at times it seems like were just good ole roommates and best friends, sometimes feels like we are on different highways, I am always looking for the road sign to make sure I am on the right road. I love Steve with all my heart and soul, but he can really drive me crazy at the same time. There are times I think, I just need to get away, we are together all the time, there are times he needs to get away from me:0 This scripture spoke so clear to me, when we are on different roads, or just roommates then we are not one. we will not with stand the darts of the enemy who is seeking to kill, steal and destroy marriages. As soon I/ you see this in your marriage, go back to you mate, pray together, be together intimately, make time for just you and your spouse so you can complete each other, pray over each other, SO you can withstand the fiery darts against your marriage! I wish I would of learned this at a younger age, but its today God showed it to me, I know I needed to hear it and wanted to share it with you. Love your self, forgive yourself, love your spouse and forgive your spouse, we all have fingers pointing back at us when we point them at someone……..Hope this gives you a fresh desire to pray for your spouse and be one with them in spirit and truth, because in marriage you are one, so walk in it. 
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I love this, and that is so true when you start pointing fingers just go to the mirror and say those things and see where that finger is really pointing..Hannah
Well, it's been 38 years for us and has not gotten better. Sad really, but we have never been in agreement on one issue. We had 3 kids and I remember when the youngest two were little and sick all the time and I was not working outside the home.
"I don't owe you a living", he told me and it cut like a knife. I worked at the kids school (for a little pay), and went back to school a couple of times, but it was NEVER enough to satisfy him. I am in a full time job now working with retarded and physically disabled kids and it is killing me. My blood pressure is sky high--I've been hit, spit on, cursed, fists in my face, etc.,have to help lift adult size 20 yr. olds out of a wheelchair, but my husband insists I stay or find something better. I am not too good to do the job, but I'm getting too old. I'm "on my own" for health insurance and jobs aren't easy to find for someone my age! Oh well, just needed to vent- I made some poor choices for which I am now paying and I'm having myself a little pitty party tonight! I know my attitude is NOT good, but school starts soon and I have to go back to work and I really can hardly stand my husband right now!
Hope you'll write a post for how to get rid of a bitter spirit. I've confessed before God,and asked for His help and guidance, but I just feel abandoned by Him right now.
Anonymous....so sorry! I thank you have paid a high price for your marriage and I might be bitter too if I were you. The only wya I know to deal with bitterness is, in Jesus, He knows your bitter and He understands, I think all would be. I can tell you what I would do, I owuld quit my job and find one I liked:) Hubby can support you just as you would him if needed:) Its a two way street. I know God will be near to you, His word said He is near the brokern hearted, and dwon trodden. Will your husband go to counseling? That would sure help:) hugs to you and hang in there!
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